Finding out your child is gifted is exciting—it means they have unique strengths and talents that make them stand out in certain ways. But for many parents, the next step—talking to their child about being gifted—can feel a little daunting. How do you frame it in a way that helps your child feel proud and confident without putting too much pressure on them?
What Does It Mean to Be Gifted?
Start by explaining the concept of being gifted in simple, relatable terms. You might say something like,
“You know how everyone’s brain works a little differently? Some people are really great at remembering details, while others are amazing at thinking up creative ideas. Being gifted means your brain works in a way that lets you learn and think differently. It doesn’t mean you’re better than anyone else—it just means you have certain talents that we want to support so you can thrive.”
Focus on the strengths that come with being gifted, like creative problem-solving, learning quickly, or diving deeply into topics they care about. Let them know that these qualities are part of what makes them special. This is a strengths-based approach that focuses on their natural abilities.
Talking About Changes in Their Education (if applicable)
If your child is joining a gifted program or switching to a private school for gifted children, explain the reasons behind the change in a positive light. For example, you could say,
“We’ve noticed that you love learning in a certain way, and this program is designed to help kids like you explore their interests more deeply. You’ll get to do more of the things you love and be surrounded by other kids who enjoy learning just like you.”
Frame it as an exciting opportunity rather than a big, overwhelming change. If they’re nervous about starting at a new school, acknowledge their feelings and reassure them that they’ll have support every step of the way.
If you ever had the experience of changing schools as a child, or being in a gifted program, you might share a little about your own experience. Kids love to know that their parents have gone through similar things and can be validated by hearing your experiences.
And if you need recommendations to support them in school, check out our blog here.
Balancing the Benefits and Challenges of the “Gifted” Label
While being gifted comes with many benefits, it’s important to talk about the challenges, too. Many gifted kids struggle with perfectionism, where they feel like they have to do everything perfectly all the time. Others might feel bored in certain situations, frustrated when things don’t come easily, or different from their peers. And the world often expects a lot from our gifted kids!
Help your child understand that these feelings are normal and that being gifted doesn’t mean they have to be perfect. Let them know it’s okay to make mistakes and that learning is a journey. You can also remind them that everyone has strengths and areas they’re working on—being gifted is just one part of who they are.
Sharing Your Own Experience as a Gifted Parent
If you are gifted yourself, this is a wonderful opportunity to connect with your child and share your own experiences. You might say something like,
“When I was your age, I also loved learning, but sometimes I felt different from other kids or didn’t know how to handle big emotions when I didn't do things perfectly. I want you to know it’s okay to feel those things, and I’m here to help you through it.”
By being open about your own journey, you can normalize their feelings and show them that being gifted is a lifelong process of growth and discovery. Sharing strategies that worked for you, such as focusing on your passions or learning how to ask for help, can provide your child with practical tools to navigate their own path.
Empowering Your Child for the Journey Ahead
Ultimately, telling your child they are gifted is about helping them understand and embrace who they are. By focusing on their strengths, being honest about the (possible) challenges, and framing educational changes as exciting opportunities, you can set the tone for a positive experience.
Above all, remind them that being gifted is just one piece of the puzzle. They’re still the same incredible person they’ve always been—this is simply another way to understand themselves.
Even with these positive explanations, your child might still feel a little nervous—and that’s perfectly okay and typical. Letting them know that feeling a bit unsure or even a bit excited is normal can help validate their experience.
What is next?- Visit our related blog here on gifted and 2E school based recommendations for enrichment.
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